Dating can be a daunting
prospect. Putting yourself ‘out there’ in the hope of finding the
right person takes courage and confidence. Getting to know someone
and letting me get to know you is not always as easy as one would
hope it is.
Past relationships and
experiences can have a negative effect on looking for right person
for you as you open the next chapter of your life. For example, if
lack of trust and commitment issues was a problem in a past
relationship it can be difficult to open up and trust someone new.
Likewise, if you have self-esteem issues the prospect of being
‘judged’ whilst dating can be too much to bare.
But dating is not all
bad. If you can overcome worries about dating you may just find that
special one to complete your life. Dating can also be a lot of fun
too. If you are looking for something serious rather than no-strings,
casual dating you might just be surprised to enjoy the experience of
meeting new people and gaining confidence as you date until you find
the one for you.
With a varied and
wonderful dating world out there, from blind dates to speed dating to
traditional ‘meet’ through friends or work to online dating, if
you are looking to date the world is your oyster.
Whilst you may consider
dating, especially newer means of dating such as speed dating, online
dating or dating apps, as a young person’s game dating is not just
for young people. Whether you are young in age or simply young at
heart, the dating world has something to offer everyone.
With more couples
divorcing or separating mid-life along with people who have sadly
lost their partner to illness or other unfortunate reasons, the
number of people in their 40s and 50s who suddenly find
themselves single is ever increasing. As such there is a demand for
over 50s dating.
Love can be found at any
age so don’t let a number stop you finding the one for you.
Likewise if you are wanting to let loose and simply have fun there
are plenty of opportunities out there. Similarly if companionship is
what you want online dating can open the doors to a happy
companionship with someone with similar interests and life desires.
Thankfully there are a
large number of mature online dating sites available on the market to
help those looking to date later on in life, with different sites
catering for different dating desires and hopes there are online
dating sites for all.
If you find yourself in
your 40s or 50s and single but hoping to find the special one
for you (or simple companionship or no-strings flirty fun) and are
considering entering the world of online dating here are a few tips
to consider -
* Find the site for you
With such an array of
online dating sites out there it is best to shop around and find the
one best suited to your dating desires and personality. For example
if you are looking for a long-term relationship a dating site that is
aimed at no-strings fun is less likely to help you find ‘the one’
compared to a dating site for those looking for long-term
relationships. Likewise if you are wanting to date people of the same
age as you dating sites catering for mature dating or dating over 40s
and 50s, or if you are looking to date younger or older people look
for dating sites that cater to age gaps.
* Do not worry about
being embarrassed to be dating online
Online dating is an
extremely popular way to date with millions of people all over the
world using online dating sites to find partners. If you are dating
again after a long-term absence from dating and the last time you
were on the dating scene there was no such thing as the internet let
alone online dating, remember times have changed and your age does
not have to hold you back from online dating just like millions of
other people both young and old. Remember the people who you chat
with and arrange dates with are also using online dating sites so
don’t worry about them judging you as they are in the same
situation.
* Only fools rush in
Whilst you may feel a
big clock ticking above you and the pressure of being older means
that you worry about being left on the shelf it is important not to
rush in and take your time. Don’t feel you have to take the first
offer, take your time and find the person best for you rather than
have an attitude of anyone will do. Likewise even though loneliness
can be difficult and it can be disheartening when meetups don’t
work out, be patient as it takes time to find the perfect partner for
you. Remember the saying ‘sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs
to find your prince’ - which can be true of all genders and
sexualities.
* Accept baggage
Very few people get to
middle-age without any baggage. Whether divorced, widowed, or out of
a long-term relationship, with or without children, and having
experienced life's ups and downs, it is important to realise and
accept that you and prospective dates will have some form of baggage.
It is worth being open and honest about your baggage and any
implications that may have (e.g. you may have emotional issues due to
baggage from a cheating ex). Likewise remember that others have
baggage too and that you may have to accept or deal with it if you
like someone. It is also worth remembering that nobody is perfect and
what you may consider as your dream partner and ideal type is not
what you really want or need for a future of happiness.
Have you tried online
dating for the over 40s and 50s?
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